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Soul Mates

It’s not just about love and romance, soul mates are about a lot more than that. 

Soul Mate Love Relationships, as previously discussed in my other blogs about the subject, Soul Mates by Brigid Bishop  and Gone With The Wind, A Classic Soul Mate Story , for example, are never easy.

So, if you meet someone and fall in love and enter into a long-term relationship, perhaps even marry, without any major difficulties, does this mean that they are not your Soul Mate?  No.

If you meet someone, fall in love, and have MAJOR difficulties, does this mean that they are your Soul Mate?  No.

It’s a case by case basis.

We do NOT have only ONE Soul Mate.  Different Soul Mates teach us (and we teach them) different lessons.  Our parents and children or perhaps grandparents usually are Soul Mate relationships. 

Maybe our relationship with our significant other is smooth as molasses, that does not mean that they are not our Soul Mate, it means that we have learned the lessons we were to teach each other and are rewarded (Nirvana) by being allowed to be together in happiness.

Maybe our lesson is not the lesson of romantic love, maybe it is how to parent together, or perhaps we produce a terminally ill child together, and although our relationship is solid, we must learn together how to deal with this type of grief.

Frequently, when we have children, they are a Soul Mate from a past life and there is a significant lesson to learn from each other.  I know that both of my sons are Soul Mates from past existences, but I also know that their father was not a Soul Mate of mine, it just worked out karmically that we had to cross paths to bring these two particular souls (my sons) to this earth.

When I compared the astrology charts of my children to mine and to my ex-husbands I found a very significant number of Soul Mate aspects between their charts and mine, but not between my chart and my ex-husbands, nor between the boys and their father.  I couldn’t understand it at first.  I compared the two boys, and again, major Soul Mate aspects between the brothers, so the lessons to be learned in our little family were between the three souls connected astrologically and oddly did not include their father.

Evidently, whatever karma existed between the boys and their father had already been worked out, or he was a new “Soul Contact” (which I believe), to both of the boys and to myself.

Now, given the situation around our divorce I would have to say that there has been some pretty negative karma built up between my ex and me and between my ex and his two sons by me, but that will work out over time either later in this life or in the next.

Soul Mates are not just romantic partners.

Think about the relationships you had (or didn’t have) with your parents.  At least one of your birth parents has been connected to you in a previous life.  The more intense the relationship with either parent, the more likely it is that there was a Soul Mate connection that brought you to incarnate as their child.

Think of special mentors you met along the way during this life.  Again, there was probably some kind of past life connection.

Think of your worst enemies, hopefully you have few, again, a karmic connection most likely exists, and if it didn’t before, and you have some intense negative energy between you, you can be sure that you will be working it out at some future date.

Have you ever met someone and for absolutely no logical reason you instantly disliked them?

That is as much of a Soul Mate connection as the ones where we feel an instant rapport with someone.

As to my Soul Mate connections with my sons, they are strikingly different.  I am not sure as to how well I am doing with these particular lessons as single parenting them for the past fifteen years has not been easy.

As a single (divorced) mom, there were times when I must admit that I envied my ex-husband as he had the freedom (I had custody) to totally move on unfettered by the boys.  He didn’t have to worry about babysitters on a Saturday night or choosing between an interesting date and a little league game, he wasn’t around for any of it, he moved out of our state.  However, I had to wake up, parent, transport, go to work, come straight home, pick up, parent, feed, clothe, water and parent 24 hours a day seven days a week, alone, for fifteen years.

It put my life on hold in many ways.  I don’t regret it, but it was difficult to do.

I did my best to make the right choices along the way, but I know that I didn’t always choose correctly, and for those things I feel remorseful.

My sons are now 19 and 20, we all three still have our ups and downs, the journey is not over yet, they are still my responsibility, and still, my ex runs free, but perhaps his lack of responsibility toward these children has to do with a lack of a Soul Mate connection from the day they were born……

I don’t think I will ever feel that I am not responsible for these boys, (men), even when they are in their fifties and I am in my seventies or eighties.  Their pain is my pain, their joy is my joy, their challenges are my challenges, although I do not take control, I just offer what guidance and support that I can, ultimately they must face their challenges alone, I just hope that these little Soul Mates of mine have gleaned what they could from what I have strived to teach them so that they can go on to lead happy and productive lives.

Oh, how I ramble, but I hope that as you read this you broaden your own understanding of the Soul Mate connection.