Real Men Don’t Call Psychics! (What Women Want)

REAL MEN DON’T CALL PSYCHICS!

by Brigid Bishop

Oh, so NOT TRUE!!

Although most of my blogging here on Keen.com has been aimed at my female audience, this is “One for the Boys”.

Yes, my client base is 90% female, but 10% of my clients are male. 

The reason for this is because women, by nature, tend to reach out and express emotions, while men, by nature try to be self-sufficient and are more hesitant to reach out for advice, especially psychic advice, as it is so hard for them to quantify it.

Regardless, REAL MEN DO CALL PSYCHICS!  (and ladies, they frequently have the same issues we do, but they come at them from an entirely different perspective).

I love men.  I have been a flirt all of my life, knowingly and unknowingly, and I have never had a shortage of men in my life.  I am currently married for the second time in my life, and I would like to tell my male customers some secrets about “What Women Want”.

Oh, the things most women want……

Women like communication.  When you meet a female of the species and you interact with her, and have a mutually pleasant encounter, and you have asked her for her number…..she actually does expect you to call!  Of course you don’t want to appear over anxious, so you may not call her the very next day, but by the second day after an encounter like this, the average female is jumping up to read the caller id every time her phone rings.  So, take a hint.  If you meet a woman you are interested in and she gives her your number, please contact her relatively soon, if you truly are interested.  If you are not interested, please don’t ask her for her number in the first place.  Don’t play games with her, respect her feelings.

Women like “plans”.  Don’t wait until Friday afternoon after work to call her for the weekend.  If you’d like to see a woman on the weekend, give her a call by Wednesday, Thursday at the absolute latest.  This way she knows you put some thought into seeing her and she doesn’t feel like it was a “what the hell, I’m not doing anything else tonight, let me ring her up.”  Women like plans and they may hold off making plans with friends waiting for you to call.  Respect her time and realize that, unknowingly, you may be holding her back socially.  This way, if you call her on a Wednesday and you know you are going on a fishing trip for the weekend, she is aware and can move forward with her own plans.  Yes, I know, you didn’t make plans, but women hold a “spot” open just in case very frequently.  Release her from her bonds of “maybe he’ll call”.

Women DO NOT like to be STALKED.  If she has been avoiding you and your phone calls let it go.  Some women are not good at being direct about being disinterested.  If it’s too difficult to get her on the phone or she doesn’t return your messages, please move on.

Women, again, like plans.  Please do not call her up and ask to see her on the weekend and then say “what do you want to do”, this puts her in a difficult position as there are literally a million different things “to do”.  When you are ready to call her and ask her out, have an idea or two about what to do.  Ask her if she’d like to go to dinner or if she’d like to see the newest movie that’s out, something to that effect, don’t put the pressure on her to choose.  Women like plans!!!

Women like attention.  If you have been seeing her for awhile and you really do care for her and want to continue seeing her, flowers are always appropriate.  Women love to receive flowers.  Especially at work where other women can see that someone does care about them!

Women like to feel cared about.  When you two are talking, ask her how she feels about the different subjects you discuss.  Ask her how she feels about how things are going…….if asked, she will tell you.

Women like progress.  Make mention, as your relationship progresses, of what you think about how things are moving along.  Tell her that you think things are going well.  Tell her that you think you have a future.

Women like honesty.  Please don’t lie to women.  It is very upsetting to them.  Even the little white lies hit women like darts in the eyeball, so try to be as honest as you can with them.  It is better to suffer a little discomfort by answering a question you are uncomfortable with honestly than to tell a lie, get caught, and have the woman you think you may be falling in love with go ballistic on you and hearing about it for the next ten years.

Women like commitment.  If you care for her and you believe that you love her, tell her.  Think out loud about the future with her, but remember, women like honesty, so don’t do it if you don’t mean it.  If you are not into commitment then you should be playing the field and not dating one woman exclusively, and you should be honest about it.

Women like security.  If circumstances exist that make it difficult to see each other as much as you would like, such as travel for business, etc., make an extra effort to stay in communication, make plans, send flowers, etc., it will ease her insecurities and build a happy foundation.

Women like romance.  Flowers, candy, opening her car door for her, getting the door as you enter and exit buildings, dancing, candlelight, telling her a song reminds you of her, telling her sweet things and being creative with the time you spend together, these things make her feel warm and loving toward you.

Women like to feel connected.  If you are dating and you want to continue to do so, give her something personal of yours to keep, like a favorite t-shirt or sweatshirt that has some symbolic meaning to her.  She will wear it, sleep in it, tell her friends about it and be very happy about it.  Women like to feel connected to you.

Just a glimpse, very straightforward, of what the majority of women, of all ages do like and hope for in a relationship even in our modern times.