Expect More, Pay Less

Expect More, Pay Less

No, this isn’t a “Target” commercial, I’m just borrowing their catch phrase for this little blog.

I took a break at 10 p.m. tonight to watch Law and Order SVU, one of my favorite shows, (actually an addiction of mine), and this over-used phrase came up on a Target Commercial and it made me think of some of my clients, and the discomfort they are going through.

Right now I have no less than three dozen clients who are going through difficulties in relationships, and are paying their “relationship dues”. 

I want them to concentrate on this phrase.

“Expect More, Pay Less”.

Now, each of you who is a client of mine and is reading this may think that I am writing this directly for you, however, I am not writing this for any one individual, I am writing it to you as a conglomerate.  It may help you to know that you are not alone, this message is for many of you to consider.

Okay, back to the phrase.

“Expect More, Pay Less”.

Right now you may be in any one of these phases; waiting for him to call, waiting for him to ask you out, waiting for him to come back, etc., but you are not happy.  You are expecting very little.  A phone call or an email just to get validation that he knows you are still in existence.

For this emotional state you are paying an extremely high toll.  You may be one, or any combination of the following; anxious, depressed, worried, sad, hopeful, nervous, lonely, angry, etc.

This price is too high.

My message to you, my dear friends, is….

EXPECT MORE, PAY LESS!!!

Don’t be putting your self-esteem down the drain by checking your email hourly to see if there is some innocuous message from him!

Don’t cruise “myspace” to see who his newest friends are!!

Don’t cruise “match” to see if his listing is active!!!

Don’t run to the phone to check the caller id each time it rings!!!

Don’t check for a dial tone!!!

Don’t panic if you leave the house to run to the store and forget your cell phone!!!!

EXPECT that he will call, but don’t have your life revolving around it.

EXPECT that he will ask you out, but date others until he does!

EXPECT that he will treat you with care, concern and respect for your feelings, and if he doesn’t, RUN, don’t walk away.

Expect that he will realize what a wonderful human being that you are and that you are totally lovable and that you deserve to be treated well, and he will!  If he does not, he’s not worth the emotional price.

When you start EXPECTING to be treated correctly, you will stop PAYING SO MUCH emotionally.

Is a three sentence email or a forwarded joke to a mass mailing list worth wasting the time running to your computer?

Is a phone call that is slow in coming worth wasting four nights out of the week anxiously sitting by your phone, waiting, when you could be out doing something you enjoy?

NO!

EXPECT MORE, PAY LESS!!!!

Please give these four little words some serious consideration.

Peace!

Brigid Bishop

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