Why? Why? Why Won’t He…?????
July 28, 2009
This is a Professional Tarot Reader’s ongoing dilemma.
Some clients just cannot or will not understand why the object of their affections does not respond to them according to the script that they have written and playing out in their head.
A client, for whatever reason, is hung up on the ever-elusive and “unobtainable” man.
They contact a Professional Tarot Reader and ask a myriad of questions concerning the connection now and in the future between themselves and the object of their desire.
The Tarot communicates to the Reader and the Querent that at this time this desired partner is “just not into you” and is doing their own thing and may continue to do so indefinitely.
The emotionally stable and reasonable client will likely accept that information, perhaps they will ask a reasonable question such as “Is there anything I can do to change the situation” and the cards are consulted again and a yes or no answer is revealed, along with a suggested course of action if the answer happens to be yes. If a no answer is received, the reasonable and stable (albeit disappointed) client will lick their emotional wounds and let go and move on to greener pastures, but not all clients are able to do so quite so easily.
There are clients out their, who, for whatever reason, fail to comprehend that they are not the center of the universe and that the object of their desires is in no way, shape or form going to satisfy their wants and needs, they just aren’t concerned with doing so and are busy going about the business of living their own lives and satisfying their own wants and needs.
Case in Point:
Female client calls about man who has recently ceased dating her to pursue an alternate relationship path and was up front and honest about severing the relationship and his pursuit of another female. Period. Client calls Professional Tarot Reader to ask as to whether or not there is any chance of a future reconnection. Tarot provides insight that indicates if the situation is allowed time to unfold, that the alternate relationship will fail, and in time, the gentleman in question will revisit the original relationship. An approximated time frame of two months is estimated by the interpretation of the Tarot.
This is not unheard of, and is frequently a correct diagnosis of situations like this, the Tarot tends to be very accurate when the situations it is used to interpret are left to unravel under their own energies and no free will actions are taken to attempt to change the outcome of the situation at hand. When actions are taken that were not implied during the initial reading the outcome can and will change.
Although any client would feel slightly disappointed at this reading, they would feel that there was some room for keeping the possibility open in their mind and move on and forward releasing the energy and the man involved, seeking alternate companionship and socialization and allowing time to reveal the outcome.
But, there are clients, who are not satisfied with this answer and want to know “Why?”.
Why what? Why isn’t this man returning immediately, why is he pursuing the other woman, why isn’t he missing her right now, ad naseum.
Well, for each additonal question of “Why?” asked, the Professional Tarot Reader will throw a spread and answer. Why isn’t he returning immediately? He is currently interested in building the relationship with the other woman. Why is he pursuing her in the first place? He is attracted to her and would like to get to know her better. Why isn’t he missing you right now? Because his energy and interest is with the other woman, he is not focused on you.
It is uncomfortable to have to point out the obvious to a client who needs to know why, but Professional Tarot Readers must do so every day. The client may not like the answers, and a Professional will deliver them as gently as possible, however, it is still not pleasant to have to reiterate a less than perfect situation.
The problems with a client like this arise when they can’t just allow the situation to evolve, but feel that they must take some course of action to change things, usually against the advice of the Reader and the Tarot.
Case In Point:
Same scenario as above.
Woman now begins to cyber stalk the man in question and “bump into him” on sites, IM, etc.
The man in question again reiterates to the woman that he is not interested, yet the woman, not satisfied with a polite no, now escalates in desperation and communicates to the man “I don’t mind if we don’t date, can we just be friends? Let’s keep in touch, etc. etc.” When in all actuality it is abundantly clear that she would never be satisfied with a platonic connection, that is just her scheme to stay close enough to him to be ready to pounce on him for relationship fodder at the very first opportunity.
So, the male in question becomes passive and issues no response to the woman at all. When next she stalks him out on IM and begins trying to chat with him, he is totally unresponsive. Disappears from sites when she logs in and totally avoids her.
She calls a her Professional Tarot Reader again and again, asks “Why?”.
Obviously, a Tarot Reading is not necessary for an analysis of this situation, but the client is accomodated and the cards display that he does not wish to pursue a connection with her at this time, romantic or platonic. Again she asks “Why?”.
The cards are thrown again and they validate that the male feels a sense of pressure or “neediness” coming from the woman’s energy and wishes to avoid it so as not to have to hurt her feelings.
She then again, cannot accept that answer and asks “Why?” “I told him we don’t have to be anything romantic, we can just be friends, I just want him to define our relationship for me, why won’t he do that?”
Again, the man is NOT INTERESTED in a relationship with her at this time, and DEFINING that non-existent relationship, even as “platonic friends”, makes him feel that he has a relationship of some sort with this woman, and he does NOT WANT a relationship with her.
In as gentle a way as possible this is again explained to the client.
You can lay down a trail for a prospective love interest, make it as clear and defined as possible, but, if the feelings and energies required are absent, the trail will be abandoned so that the interest can blaze his own trail, the one his heart makes him forge out on his own.
“Why?”
A simple three letter word, a one word question, but one of the most difficult questions a Professional Tarot Reader must answer at times.
Understanding the “Why?” is not a necessary part of successful living in a stituation like this. A client like this would be well served to look on the inside and ask “Why?” they cannot let go of a person that has no vested interest in them so that they will be free to move forward to a person who WILL want to be with them.
That’s “Why?”.
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Brigid Bishop’s Tarot Thought For The Day
October 23, 2008
The Ace of Wands
What a wonderful and action-oriented energy we will feel today, under the influence of this fertile card!
The Ace of Wands symbolizes fertility, male sexuality (yes, it is a phallic symbol), new beginnings, swift and sudden change of course. This card begins the suit which is ruled by the element of fire, denoting action, valor, swiftness, and confidence. The Ace is a healthy card and can be interpreted in several ways based upon the content of the question at hand.
In relationship readings the Ace of Wands will indicate strong male sexual desire, aggressiveness and assertiveness. It is the physical side of a relationship, the wand pictured abouve being a definite phallic symblol, it can indicate pregnancy as it is the fertility of th male that is represented above.
In readings concerning other subject matter it denotes new beginnings, swift, and at times, unexpected. The card represents the beginning of a new cycle, positive, assertive and confident.
The negative intonations of the card can include stubborn self-centeredness, belligerance, clinging to one’s ideas and thoughts as the only ones that are correct and refusing to act in any manner that is inclusive of another’s input.
How is the Ace of Wands activated in your life today?
Tarot Tips: When Will? By Brigid Bishop
October 23, 2008
Tarot Tips: When Will? By Brigid Bishop
Nearly each and every professional tarot reading that I provide contains some question of timing from the querent. Timing is extremely hard to pin down, as discussed in my previous blog, “Timing and the Tarot“.
What many querents fail to realize is that a timing question such as “When will he call me?” or “When will he commit to me?” is not just a clearcut “x number of weeks” or “in the month of January”, frequently, there are lessons to be learned by both the querent and the person in question before a “timeframe” can be accurately assimilated.
A more realistic answer, (although it will NOT pinpoint a chronological timeline for you), can be found by using this simple spread. Many querents do not want to hear the answers that this spread provides, however, if you have the patience and faith in the tarot, as I do, you will find that asking your favorite tarot reader to provide this type of interpretation will be most insightful and will increase the accuracy of plotting a timeline afterward.
To answer a question such as “When will I hear from so and so?”, shuffle your deck as normal, cut the cards and lay out four cards, 1, 2, 3, 4
1…When You (or they) Realize (Interpret the card)
2…When You (or they) Accept (Interpret the card)
3…When You (or they) Acknowledge (Interpret the card)
4…When you (or they) Do (Interpret the card)
If you are interested in having me provide this type of an interpretation for you, arrange a call with me, and when we connect, let me know that you are interested in the four card timing reading, rather than the common general timing reading.
Peace Out!
Brigid Bishop
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Reading Death, A Cause for Refusing General Readings
June 18, 2008
Reading Death
A Cause for Refusing General Readings
This is one of the few topics that I will not professionally read on as I believe that in the case of answering this particular question the slightest error or misinterpretation can cause irreversible harm. I do NOT claim to be 100% accurate; I do not believe that there is a Reader in existence who is.
My practice is based more on Life Coaching and Relationship Coaching than pure psychic interpretation of Tarot, those who understand this generally benefit greatly from my sessions, those who do not may either walk away dissatisfied or satisfied, dependent upon how accurately I have read for them. The clients who go to the “next level” with me, The Coaching Process, are those who find my services the most useful.
So, suppose I get a question from a querent that goes like this “Is my father going to die soon?” My response is “I am sorry but I will not read death”. I refuse to do so as suppose I answer “no” and he passes away within the near future, this person may not have taken the time to get the closure or resolve any unresolved issues with their father because they had faith that they had time. (Some people, unfortunately, do take their readings too seriously, I constantly advise against it, but yet, some people continue to do so.) Anyway, suppose I answer “yes” and the querent goes into a panic, but I am wrong, and the father lives on and on, yes he will pass someday, but I am not God, and I cannot name the date, nor will I attempt to. This querent may well live in a state of psychological panic for a long time. Unnecessarily.
It gives me bad vibes just to hear a question like that and the energy clings to me for days, sometimes even forcing me to take time away from reading professionally, like having a metaphysical flu, if you will.
I have actually had a client ask me this question, and when informed that I would not read it, she said, “Ok, well, can you tell me if I will be making funeral arrangements soon?” Ugh. Same question, different wording, you cannot bypass my decision to refuse to read on death by rephrasing your question and I explained this to her as gently as I could. She has never called me again, we were not a good client/advisor match.
Sometimes I do see death in the cards even though I do not want to.
The first time I saw death in the cards I did not understand how to interpret it until after the fact, it was twenty years ago. My children were in daycare and one of the workers was teaching my son Justin, a gifted artist, how to draw human faces and forms, he was only three, but his drawings already had the appearance of a much more mature hand and Elaine was a very talented artist in her own right. Elaine had an eighteen year old daughter at the time and Elaine loved when I read tarot for her, she bartered with me, art lessons for Justin for readings from me.
One day Elaine asked me to read her daughter, Katherine.
I agreed, but for some reason I felt uncomfortable. At first I thought that it was because Katherine was so young, (I won’t read anyone under eighteen), but she was eighteen and it was her mom asking me to read her, so I just pushed the feeling aside.
So there we were, at the preschool after hours, Justin in the back getting his lesson, Zachary watching cartoons contentedly, and Katherine and I at the front table doing the reading.
I asked Katherine if she had a specific question, she said no, so I did a general reading on her.
The cards that came up, the impression I got, the chill that went up my spine just made me feel like I was viewing something I shouldn’t be looking at. It honestly looked like Katherine had no future at all.
Rather than give her an upsetting reading I reverted to the text book novice way of reading the cards and went through them individually by position and by text book meaning, not combining them together, that would have spelled disaster. I was puzzled by the reading and when Katherine got up from the table, I wrote it down to review later. She was unimpressed with the process, and rightly so, but pleasant just the same. The reading was not cohesive.
Katherine used to babysit my kids when I went out on a Friday or Saturday night, I was a newly divorced single mom, and I truly cared for her and my kids just loved her. She was a little bit of a “wild child”, she already had a tattoo on her ankle, (pretty wild in the late 80’s for one so young), and I truly was concerned about what I saw.
So we headed home, went our separate ways, I still felt ill at ease about the reading.
At four a.m. that Saturday morning, (this all happened on a Friday), we heard multiple sirens and emergency vehicles kept running up and down our road for what seemed like hours.
On the news that morning was the story of a fiery car wreck that took the lives of six young people from our town, there were no survivors. They had been at a graduation party evidently and were out late night jammed into a 1985 Mustang that was known around town to speed around irresponsibly.
Elaine called me.
She had to go to the mortuary and she needed a ride.
It was 9 a.m.
I got a friend to watch my kids and I took her.
Elaine identified Katherine by her tattoo.
Katherine was Elaine’s only child.
I had no doubt what the spread was telling me.
Could I have prevented Katherine’s death? No. I didn’t see a car wreck or the horrible ending to a bright light, I just couldn’t pull a future out of the cards.
This is why I do not do general readings. I may see something I do not want to see, and in case I misinterpret the cards, why should I cause a querent unnecessary anxiety.
What do I do now if I see something that looks like death in a reading?
I keep it to myself and stick to the question that is asked.
I do not do general readings because you just don’t know what the universe will tell you when you go down that path and I am not 100% accurate, no one is.
God Bless Katherine and keep her safe.
This is written in honor of her memory.
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Tarot Tips by Brigid Bishop: Meaning of Mulitple Cards Appearing in Spreads
Multiple Cards Appearing in Spreads are significant, here is a brief guide for what multiples mean when they appear in your spreads:
4 Aces New Beginnings in all areas
3 Aces Fortunate Omens, good luck, fresh starts
4 Kings Important news, swift conclusions
3 Kings News of Conflicts
4 Queens Great news, Important social events
3 Queens Friends with influence and power
4 Knights Old friends and past acquaintances
3 Knights Social Invitations Abound
4 Pages New plans
3 Pages Sociable youth
4 Tens Important responsibilities
3 Tens Important business position
4 Nines Near completion
3 Nines Correspondence
4 Eights News, Merriment
3 Eights Travel
4 Sevens Good Luck, contracts
3 Sevens Disappointments
4 Sixes Enjoyment
3 Sixes Advantages and acquistions
4 Fives Order
3 Fives Conflicts, bad times
4 Fours Serentity
3 Fours Industry
4 Threes Determination
3 Threes Deception
4 Twos Conversations
3 Twos Reorganizations, recommendations
Pairings:
Two Kings: minor counsel
Two Queens: tension; rivalry
Two Knights: reunions; intimacy
Two Pages: disquiet; annoyance
Two Tens: a new direction
Two Nines: administration; handling contracts
Two Eights: new knowledge
Two Sevens: news
Two Sixes: irritability
Two Fives: delay; awaiting a result
Two Fours: insomnia
Two Threes: calm
Two Twos: accord; balance
Two Aces: partnerships
Tarot Tips by Brigid Bishop: Dead Give-Away Cards
May 14, 2008
Tarot Tips by Brigid Bishop: Dead Give-Away Cards
In Tarot Reading, in my experience, there are certain “Dead Give-Away” cards that allow the Advisor to easily interpret the outcome.
When these cards appear in the proper positioning and dignities in the spreads, the Advisor can be very confident as to the accuracy of their reading. Do not consider the cards alone, the position of the cards in the spread and the dignities assigned by the surrounding cards will affect these, but it is pretty straightforward.
Dead Give-Aways
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Reconciliation: The Six of Cups
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Breaking Up: The Tower
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Marriage: The Two of Cups
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Living Together: Ten of Pentacles
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Pregnancy: The Empress or a Combination of The Ace of Cups and The Ace of Wands
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Cheating: Three of Swords
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Betrayal: Ten of Swords
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Honesty: The Hierophant.
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Lying: Seven of Swords
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Promotion: Three of Pentacles
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Raise in Salary: Six of Pentacles
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New Job: Eight of Pentacles
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Job Offer: Ace of Pentacles
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New Love: Ace of Cups
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Sex: The Devil
These are just a few of the more obvious interpretations, and as stated, it does not ALWAYS mean this, it is dependent upon the circumstances of that particular spread, but it is a good rule of thumb.
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Real Men Don’t Call Psychics! (What Women Want)
May 13, 2008
REAL MEN DON’T CALL PSYCHICS!
by Brigid Bishop
Oh, so NOT TRUE!!
Although most of my blogging here on Keen.com has been aimed at my female audience, this is “One for the Boys”.
Yes, my client base is 90% female, but 10% of my clients are male.
The reason for this is because women, by nature, tend to reach out and express emotions, while men, by nature try to be self-sufficient and are more hesitant to reach out for advice, especially psychic advice, as it is so hard for them to quantify it.
Regardless, REAL MEN DO CALL PSYCHICS! (and ladies, they frequently have the same issues we do, but they come at them from an entirely different perspective).
I love men. I have been a flirt all of my life, knowingly and unknowingly, and I have never had a shortage of men in my life. I am currently married for the second time in my life, and I would like to tell my male customers some secrets about “What Women Want”.
Oh, the things most women want……
Women like communication. When you meet a female of the species and you interact with her, and have a mutually pleasant encounter, and you have asked her for her number…..she actually does expect you to call! Of course you don’t want to appear over anxious, so you may not call her the very next day, but by the second day after an encounter like this, the average female is jumping up to read the caller id every time her phone rings. So, take a hint. If you meet a woman you are interested in and she gives her your number, please contact her relatively soon, if you truly are interested. If you are not interested, please don’t ask her for her number in the first place. Don’t play games with her, respect her feelings.
Women like “plans”. Don’t wait until Friday afternoon after work to call her for the weekend. If you’d like to see a woman on the weekend, give her a call by Wednesday, Thursday at the absolute latest. This way she knows you put some thought into seeing her and she doesn’t feel like it was a “what the hell, I’m not doing anything else tonight, let me ring her up.” Women like plans and they may hold off making plans with friends waiting for you to call. Respect her time and realize that, unknowingly, you may be holding her back socially. This way, if you call her on a Wednesday and you know you are going on a fishing trip for the weekend, she is aware and can move forward with her own plans. Yes, I know, you didn’t make plans, but women hold a “spot” open just in case very frequently. Release her from her bonds of “maybe he’ll call”.
Women DO NOT like to be STALKED. If she has been avoiding you and your phone calls let it go. Some women are not good at being direct about being disinterested. If it’s too difficult to get her on the phone or she doesn’t return your messages, please move on.
Women, again, like plans. Please do not call her up and ask to see her on the weekend and then say “what do you want to do”, this puts her in a difficult position as there are literally a million different things “to do”. When you are ready to call her and ask her out, have an idea or two about what to do. Ask her if she’d like to go to dinner or if she’d like to see the newest movie that’s out, something to that effect, don’t put the pressure on her to choose. Women like plans!!!
Women like attention. If you have been seeing her for awhile and you really do care for her and want to continue seeing her, flowers are always appropriate. Women love to receive flowers. Especially at work where other women can see that someone does care about them!
Women like to feel cared about. When you two are talking, ask her how she feels about the different subjects you discuss. Ask her how she feels about how things are going…….if asked, she will tell you.
Women like progress. Make mention, as your relationship progresses, of what you think about how things are moving along. Tell her that you think things are going well. Tell her that you think you have a future.
Women like honesty. Please don’t lie to women. It is very upsetting to them. Even the little white lies hit women like darts in the eyeball, so try to be as honest as you can with them. It is better to suffer a little discomfort by answering a question you are uncomfortable with honestly than to tell a lie, get caught, and have the woman you think you may be falling in love with go ballistic on you and hearing about it for the next ten years.
Women like commitment. If you care for her and you believe that you love her, tell her. Think out loud about the future with her, but remember, women like honesty, so don’t do it if you don’t mean it. If you are not into commitment then you should be playing the field and not dating one woman exclusively, and you should be honest about it.
Women like security. If circumstances exist that make it difficult to see each other as much as you would like, such as travel for business, etc., make an extra effort to stay in communication, make plans, send flowers, etc., it will ease her insecurities and build a happy foundation.
Women like romance. Flowers, candy, opening her car door for her, getting the door as you enter and exit buildings, dancing, candlelight, telling her a song reminds you of her, telling her sweet things and being creative with the time you spend together, these things make her feel warm and loving toward you.
Women like to feel connected. If you are dating and you want to continue to do so, give her something personal of yours to keep, like a favorite t-shirt or sweatshirt that has some symbolic meaning to her. She will wear it, sleep in it, tell her friends about it and be very happy about it. Women like to feel connected to you.
Just a glimpse, very straightforward, of what the majority of women, of all ages do like and hope for in a relationship even in our modern times.
Brigid Bishop’s Tarot Thought For The Day
March 26, 2008
Is the Page of Pentacles going to energize your day?
The Page is ready to embark on a new level of emotional and earthy understanding. He is a blank slate ready to be written on at a deeper level of understanding of human nature. He has enjoyed the prosperity and security of the suit of Pentacles, and now he must learn how to give back to the world on the same level at which he has received his blessings.
He is ruled by the sign of Capricorn.
The Page is eager to experience love and career growth and offers his earthy nature innocently to the world around him. The Page is sensual and sympathetic to those that encounter him.
This Page can bring welcome news in a celebratory manner.
The Page of Pentacles can indicate that someone is ambitious and eager to promote themselves at home, work and in society in general.
The negative intonations of this card can indicate an immature individual who is lazy, greedy and looking for an easy way to get ahead.
Brigid Bishop’s Tarot Thought For The Day
March 25, 2008
The Six of Pentacles
When the Six of Pentacles appears in a spread we again experience Success! We can be sure that assistance from a generous friend or employer is arriving, we have found a benefactor that will help to lift us up materially and emotionally after the worry and loss of the Five.
In relationship readings this card can indicate the beginning of sharing our individual resources, a generous atmosphere surrounds the relationship, both partners giving, receiving and sharing.
In other matters, this card can indicate financial increase or reward, such as a raise, promotion or recognition of one’s abilities on the earthly plain.
As with most Penatcles, the negative vibration of this card can be a fixation on material gain that leads us to abandon our emotional side.
With this card expending it’s energy today expect a prosperous and warm day, people are willing to cooperate and recognize the good they see in others.