Reading Death, A Cause for Refusing General Readings

Reading Death

A Cause for Refusing General Readings

This is one of the few topics that I will not professionally read on as I believe that in the case of answering this particular question the slightest error or misinterpretation can cause irreversible harm. I do NOT claim to be 100% accurate; I do not believe that there is a Reader in existence who is.

My practice is based more on Life Coaching and Relationship Coaching than pure psychic interpretation of Tarot, those who understand this generally benefit greatly from my sessions, those who do not may either walk away dissatisfied or satisfied, dependent upon how accurately I have read for them. The clients who go to the “next level” with me, The Coaching Process, are those who find my services the most useful.

So, suppose I get a question from a querent that goes like this “Is my father going to die soon?” My response is “I am sorry but I will not read death”. I refuse to do so as suppose I answer “no” and he passes away within the near future, this person may not have taken the time to get the closure or resolve any unresolved issues with their father because they had faith that they had time. (Some people, unfortunately, do take their readings too seriously, I constantly advise against it, but yet, some people continue to do so.) Anyway, suppose I answer “yes” and the querent goes into a panic, but I am wrong, and the father lives on and on, yes he will pass someday, but I am not God, and I cannot name the date, nor will I attempt to. This querent may well live in a state of psychological panic for a long time. Unnecessarily.

It gives me bad vibes just to hear a question like that and the energy clings to me for days, sometimes even forcing me to take time away from reading professionally, like having a metaphysical flu, if you will.

I have actually had a client ask me this question, and when informed that I would not read it, she said, “Ok, well, can you tell me if I will be making funeral arrangements soon?” Ugh. Same question, different wording, you cannot bypass my decision to refuse to read on death by rephrasing your question and I explained this to her as gently as I could. She has never called me again, we were not a good client/advisor match.

Sometimes I do see death in the cards even though I do not want to.

The first time I saw death in the cards I did not understand how to interpret it until after the fact, it was twenty years ago. My children were in daycare and one of the workers was teaching my son Justin, a gifted artist, how to draw human faces and forms, he was only three, but his drawings already had the appearance of a much more mature hand and Elaine was a very talented artist in her own right. Elaine had an eighteen year old daughter at the time and Elaine loved when I read tarot for her, she bartered with me, art lessons for Justin for readings from me.

One day Elaine asked me to read her daughter, Katherine.

I agreed, but for some reason I felt uncomfortable. At first I thought that it was because Katherine was so young, (I won’t read anyone under eighteen), but she was eighteen and it was her mom asking me to read her, so I just pushed the feeling aside.

So there we were, at the preschool after hours, Justin in the back getting his lesson, Zachary watching cartoons contentedly, and Katherine and I at the front table doing the reading.

I asked Katherine if she had a specific question, she said no, so I did a general reading on her.

The cards that came up, the impression I got, the chill that went up my spine just made me feel like I was viewing something I shouldn’t be looking at. It honestly looked like Katherine had no future at all.

Rather than give her an upsetting reading I reverted to the text book novice way of reading the cards and went through them individually by position and by text book meaning, not combining them together, that would have spelled disaster. I was puzzled by the reading and when Katherine got up from the table, I wrote it down to review later. She was unimpressed with the process, and rightly so, but pleasant just the same. The reading was not cohesive.

Katherine used to babysit my kids when I went out on a Friday or Saturday night, I was a newly divorced single mom, and I truly cared for her and my kids just loved her. She was a little bit of a “wild child”, she already had a tattoo on her ankle, (pretty wild in the late 80’s for one so young), and I truly was concerned about what I saw.

So we headed home, went our separate ways, I still felt ill at ease about the reading.

At four a.m. that Saturday morning, (this all happened on a Friday), we heard multiple sirens and emergency vehicles kept running up and down our road for what seemed like hours.

On the news that morning was the story of a fiery car wreck that took the lives of six young people from our town, there were no survivors. They had been at a graduation party evidently and were out late night jammed into a 1985 Mustang that was known around town to speed around irresponsibly.

Elaine called me.

She had to go to the mortuary and she needed a ride.

It was 9 a.m.

I got a friend to watch my kids and I took her.

Elaine identified Katherine by her tattoo.

Katherine was Elaine’s only child.

I had no doubt what the spread was telling me.

Could I have prevented Katherine’s death? No. I didn’t see a car wreck or the horrible ending to a bright light, I just couldn’t pull a future out of the cards.

This is why I do not do general readings. I may see something I do not want to see, and in case I misinterpret the cards, why should I cause a querent unnecessary anxiety.

What do I do now if I see something that looks like death in a reading?

I keep it to myself and stick to the question that is asked.

I do not do general readings because you just don’t know what the universe will tell you when you go down that path and I am not 100% accurate, no one is.

God Bless Katherine and keep her safe.

This is written in honor of her memory.

Copyright © 2008 Brigid Bishop

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Tarot Tips by Brigid Bishop, Meaning of Multiple Cards in Spread

Tarot Tips by Brigid Bishop: Meaning of Mulitple Cards Appearing in Spreads

Multiple Cards Appearing in Spreads are significant, here is a brief guide for what multiples mean when they appear in your spreads:

4 Aces New Beginnings in all areas
3 Aces Fortunate Omens, good luck, fresh starts
4 Kings Important news, swift conclusions
3 Kings News of Conflicts
4 Queens Great news, Important social events
3 Queens Friends with influence and power
4 Knights Old friends and past acquaintances
3 Knights Social Invitations Abound
4 Pages New plans
3 Pages Sociable youth
4 Tens Important responsibilities
3 Tens Important business position
4 Nines Near completion
3 Nines Correspondence
4 Eights News, Merriment
3 Eights Travel
4 Sevens Good Luck, contracts
3 Sevens Disappointments
4 Sixes Enjoyment
3 Sixes Advantages and acquistions
4 Fives Order
3 Fives Conflicts, bad times
4 Fours Serentity
3 Fours Industry
4 Threes Determination
3 Threes Deception
4 Twos Conversations
3 Twos Reorganizations, recommendations

Pairings:

Two Kings: minor counsel
Two Queens: tension; rivalry
Two Knights: reunions; intimacy
Two Pages: disquiet; annoyance
Two Tens: a new direction
Two Nines: administration; handling contracts
Two Eights: new knowledge
Two Sevens: news
Two Sixes: irritability
Two Fives: delay; awaiting a result
Two Fours: insomnia
Two Threes: calm
Two Twos: accord; balance
Two Aces: partnerships

Tarot Tips by Brigid Bishop: Dead Give-Away Cards

Tarot Tips by Brigid Bishop:  Dead Give-Away Cards

In Tarot Reading, in my experience, there are certain “Dead Give-Away” cards that allow the Advisor to easily interpret the outcome.

When these cards appear in the proper positioning and dignities in the spreads, the Advisor can be very confident as to the accuracy of their reading.  Do not consider the cards alone, the position of the cards in the spread and the dignities assigned by the surrounding cards will affect these, but it is pretty straightforward.

Dead Give-Aways

• Reconciliation:  The Six of Cups
• Breaking Up:  The Tower
• Marriage:  The Two of Cups
• Living Together:  Ten of Pentacles
• Pregnancy:  The Empress or a Combination of The Ace of Cups and The Ace of Wands
• Cheating:  Three of Swords
• Betrayal:  Ten of Swords
• Honesty:  The Hierophant.
• Lying:  Seven of Swords
• Promotion:  Three of Pentacles
• Raise in Salary:  Six of Pentacles
• New Job:  Eight of Pentacles
• Job Offer:  Ace of Pentacles
• New Love:  Ace of Cups
• Sex:  The Devil

These are just a few of the more obvious interpretations, and as stated, it does not ALWAYS mean this, it is dependent upon the circumstances of that particular spread, but it is a good rule of thumb.

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Real Men Don’t Call Psychics! (What Women Want)

REAL MEN DON’T CALL PSYCHICS!

by Brigid Bishop

Oh, so NOT TRUE!!

Although most of my blogging here on Keen.com has been aimed at my female audience, this is “One for the Boys”.

Yes, my client base is 90% female, but 10% of my clients are male. 

The reason for this is because women, by nature, tend to reach out and express emotions, while men, by nature try to be self-sufficient and are more hesitant to reach out for advice, especially psychic advice, as it is so hard for them to quantify it.

Regardless, REAL MEN DO CALL PSYCHICS!  (and ladies, they frequently have the same issues we do, but they come at them from an entirely different perspective).

I love men.  I have been a flirt all of my life, knowingly and unknowingly, and I have never had a shortage of men in my life.  I am currently married for the second time in my life, and I would like to tell my male customers some secrets about “What Women Want”.

Oh, the things most women want……

Women like communication.  When you meet a female of the species and you interact with her, and have a mutually pleasant encounter, and you have asked her for her number…..she actually does expect you to call!  Of course you don’t want to appear over anxious, so you may not call her the very next day, but by the second day after an encounter like this, the average female is jumping up to read the caller id every time her phone rings.  So, take a hint.  If you meet a woman you are interested in and she gives her your number, please contact her relatively soon, if you truly are interested.  If you are not interested, please don’t ask her for her number in the first place.  Don’t play games with her, respect her feelings.

Women like “plans”.  Don’t wait until Friday afternoon after work to call her for the weekend.  If you’d like to see a woman on the weekend, give her a call by Wednesday, Thursday at the absolute latest.  This way she knows you put some thought into seeing her and she doesn’t feel like it was a “what the hell, I’m not doing anything else tonight, let me ring her up.”  Women like plans and they may hold off making plans with friends waiting for you to call.  Respect her time and realize that, unknowingly, you may be holding her back socially.  This way, if you call her on a Wednesday and you know you are going on a fishing trip for the weekend, she is aware and can move forward with her own plans.  Yes, I know, you didn’t make plans, but women hold a “spot” open just in case very frequently.  Release her from her bonds of “maybe he’ll call”.

Women DO NOT like to be STALKED.  If she has been avoiding you and your phone calls let it go.  Some women are not good at being direct about being disinterested.  If it’s too difficult to get her on the phone or she doesn’t return your messages, please move on.

Women, again, like plans.  Please do not call her up and ask to see her on the weekend and then say “what do you want to do”, this puts her in a difficult position as there are literally a million different things “to do”.  When you are ready to call her and ask her out, have an idea or two about what to do.  Ask her if she’d like to go to dinner or if she’d like to see the newest movie that’s out, something to that effect, don’t put the pressure on her to choose.  Women like plans!!!

Women like attention.  If you have been seeing her for awhile and you really do care for her and want to continue seeing her, flowers are always appropriate.  Women love to receive flowers.  Especially at work where other women can see that someone does care about them!

Women like to feel cared about.  When you two are talking, ask her how she feels about the different subjects you discuss.  Ask her how she feels about how things are going…….if asked, she will tell you.

Women like progress.  Make mention, as your relationship progresses, of what you think about how things are moving along.  Tell her that you think things are going well.  Tell her that you think you have a future.

Women like honesty.  Please don’t lie to women.  It is very upsetting to them.  Even the little white lies hit women like darts in the eyeball, so try to be as honest as you can with them.  It is better to suffer a little discomfort by answering a question you are uncomfortable with honestly than to tell a lie, get caught, and have the woman you think you may be falling in love with go ballistic on you and hearing about it for the next ten years.

Women like commitment.  If you care for her and you believe that you love her, tell her.  Think out loud about the future with her, but remember, women like honesty, so don’t do it if you don’t mean it.  If you are not into commitment then you should be playing the field and not dating one woman exclusively, and you should be honest about it.

Women like security.  If circumstances exist that make it difficult to see each other as much as you would like, such as travel for business, etc., make an extra effort to stay in communication, make plans, send flowers, etc., it will ease her insecurities and build a happy foundation.

Women like romance.  Flowers, candy, opening her car door for her, getting the door as you enter and exit buildings, dancing, candlelight, telling her a song reminds you of her, telling her sweet things and being creative with the time you spend together, these things make her feel warm and loving toward you.

Women like to feel connected.  If you are dating and you want to continue to do so, give her something personal of yours to keep, like a favorite t-shirt or sweatshirt that has some symbolic meaning to her.  She will wear it, sleep in it, tell her friends about it and be very happy about it.  Women like to feel connected to you.

Just a glimpse, very straightforward, of what the majority of women, of all ages do like and hope for in a relationship even in our modern times.

Tarot Basics

Tarot Basics

Although many fear The Tarot as a paranormal portal to another world that allows both good and evil influences to enter the human realm, the Tarot is actually a tool for stimulating personal spiritual growth.

The Tarot, known by the general public as primarily a divinatory tool, has many more productive uses than divination for the enlightened and educated individual.

What the Tarot is not, is a fortune telling mechanism that will predict exactly what the course of events of your life will be. Although the Tarot can be used effectively for divination, the Tarot will only present to the Reader what will happen if the current course of events remains unaltered, so Free Will always allows you to alter the future presented in the cards, either in a positive or adverse manner. It is key for the Reader and the Querent to mark specifically what path they are on consciously in order for a Reading to be an effective consultation of the esoteric.

What many do not understand or accept is that the Tarot is actually based on the Judeo-Christian Bible and the Kabbalah.
When a client comes to me, obviously afraid that perhaps they are violating their religion in some way, or feeling “edgy”, I always pull out my favorite Major Arcana card to put them at ease and have them gain an understanding of how the Tarot truly is a spiritual tool that evolved from a very mainstream religion. I show them The Lovers. Go ahead and search the internet for a picture of The Lovers as portrayed on the Universal Waite Tarot Deck, look at the card and you will easily discern which Bible Story is depicted. Yes, it’s all about Eve and Adam and The Garden of Eden.

Once a client sees this obvious correlation they typically relax and lose their fear of the Tarot cards and hence, receive a better reading.

The Tarot is paranormal in the sense that it allows us to tap into the Collective Unconscious, and by doing so, we are tapping into all the knowledge that ever was or will be. We are also tapping into the subconscious of the Querent at the same time, tying the two together, and of course, the more open and relaxed the Querent is about the cards, the better the Reading experience will be for them.

As a spiritual tool, the Tarot should be handled with care and respect. Many believe that the Tarot should be wrapped in a black cloth and cleansed with sea salt or another symbolic “clean” substance, i.e. holy water, oil, sunlight or the light of the full moon. I find that “bonding” with your cards is most effective in ensuring you are working well with your deck.

By bonding I meant that you should connect with your cards spiritually, on an individual basis. So, if holy water is symbolic to you of purity, by all means, use this to clear any negative vibrations from your cards, or if sea salt is your prefered cleanser, use it, whatever brings you a sense of purity should be what you use for the cleansing of your cards.

By treating your cards with respect you will begin to recognize the spirituality within the images. The cards have absolutely no power as inanimate objects, however, if you form a psychological and physical bond with them you will empower them when you commence reading for yourself and for others.

Copyright © 2008 Brigid Bishop

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Brigid Bishop’s Tarot Thought For The Day

 

Is the Page of Pentacles going to energize your day?

The Page is ready to embark on a new level of emotional and earthy understanding.  He is a blank slate ready to be written on at a deeper level of understanding of human nature.  He has enjoyed the prosperity and security of the suit of Pentacles, and now he must learn how to give back to the world on the same level at which he has received his blessings. 

He is ruled by the sign of Capricorn.

The Page is eager to experience love and career growth and offers his earthy nature innocently to the world around him.  The Page is sensual and sympathetic to those that encounter him.

This Page can bring welcome news in a celebratory manner.

The Page of Pentacles can indicate that someone is ambitious and eager to promote themselves at home, work and in society in general.

The negative intonations of this card can indicate an immature individual who is lazy, greedy and looking for an easy way to get ahead.

Brigid Bishop’s Tarot Thought For The Day

 

The Six of Pentacles

When the Six of Pentacles appears in a spread we again experience Success!  We can be sure that assistance from a generous friend or employer is arriving, we have found a benefactor that will help to lift us up materially and emotionally after the worry and loss of the Five.

In relationship readings this card can indicate the beginning of sharing our individual resources, a generous atmosphere surrounds the relationship, both partners giving, receiving and sharing.

In other matters, this card can indicate financial increase or reward, such as a raise, promotion or recognition of one’s abilities on the earthly plain.

As with most Penatcles, the negative vibration of this card can be a fixation on material gain that leads us to abandon our emotional side.

With this card expending it’s energy today expect a prosperous and warm day, people are willing to cooperate and recognize the good they see in others.

Brigid Bishop’s Tarot Thought For The Day

 

SORROW.

The Three of Swords influencing our day is not really a positive energy as you can tell by it’s one word definition, Sorrow.

This card appearing at any point in a spread indicates a great sadness.  Pain exists in the Querent’s life, this card indicates a loss.

In relationship readings this card can indicate a love triangle, infidelity, a betrayal, or the interference of a third party in the relationship.

This card requires the Querent to recover from the loss prior to moving forward.  The positive influence of this card can be felt as the realistic acceptance of the loss incurred and the ability to recognize that a healing must occur. 

The Suit of Swords does not comprise a pleaseant journey, the three brings us to realize this whether we wish to or not.

In divination, when a Querent asks if a lover is faithful and this card appears, pay careful attention to your interpretation, it does not necessarily indicate infidelity, however, it is a problematic card, it can mean that the love has gone astray, you must pay special attention to the dignity of the card and the positioning within the spread.  Too many readers today are inexperienced at reading the diginities of the cards and jump to the conclusion that this card means an affair is underway, rather than looking at the big picture of the entire spread.

A reader should never inform a Querent that a lover is being unfaithful unless the spread is giving an iron clad “Yes” answer.

Brigid Bishop’s Tarot Thought For The Day

Brigid Bishop’s Tarot Thought for the Day

I enjoy the energy and sheer power of this card and I am so happy that it is coming up as our pick for the day as it bodes well for all of us in the essence of its pure feminine energy.The Empress.  Think about the title.  If you are a female, imagine how it would feel to be an Empress. 

Feel the POWER!  Do you feel that it is your duty to nurture those you are responsible for?  Do you feel gracious and noble?  Contemplate how you would feel if you, yourself, were an Empress.The Empress vibrates to the number three, the number three symbolic of having made a successful start and beginning the work that is at hand.  She is Venus, the Goddess of Love, symbolic of femininity, sexuality, pleasure, creativity, union and fertility. 

She is ruled by the planet Venus, who in turn rules the zodiac signs of Taurus and Libra, the sensual earth signs. 

She is associated with Daleth, which means a door, and also relates to the planet Venus.When The Empress appears in a spread she can represent an individual, a mother (usually), or also the onset of a marriage or serious relationship.  She is fertile, and guards her upcoming harvest with all of her feminine powers.  She is all that represents the power of the female and the pleasures inherent to the female gender.Think of the qualities of Mother Nature in regard to interpreting The Empress.  She can represent a specific individual or the feminine characteristics stated above becoming active within the querent themselves.Since The Empress is associated with fertility, it can be assumed that her appearance in a spread denotes a relationship that is physical in nature.Bring out The Empress within today and take control of your surroundings!

Practical Tarot, Why General Readings are NOT PRACTICAL

General Readings can be beneficial when done in person.  When I read for someone in my office, I have them handle, shuffle and cut the cards, thus infusing the cards with their energies and providing insight into their current concerns.

When a General Reading is asked for over the phone, the advisor only has your voice to tap into.  This makes providing a General Reading a bit more complex.

Consider this scenario:

You have found someone who has all of the qualifications you’d like in an advisor and you believe that they are ethical as well. To get the most out of your reading, don’t call them up and say “tell me about my love life”. You will get what is known as a “cold read”. This is not necessarily inaccurate, but it will be very general and not as in depth as you would like. The cards are multi-faceted, and not knowing the nature of your situation will make it much more difficult than it has to be for the reader to tap into your situation. You wouldn’t go to a counselor and sit down and say “Tell me how to fix my life“, would you? It’s the same with a reader. For instance, you ask a vague question about where your relationship with so-and-so is going and the Two of Cups appears at the base of the reading. The advisor can interpret this in several ways to say the least. This could mean you two are married, were married in the past, are very much in love, or that your current love interest is married to someone else, or that he or she was married in the past…. a lot can be deciphered by the surrounding cards, but why make the reader guess, it takes the focus off of delivering clarity and puts the pressure on the reader to “prove themselves“.Instead, when you contact a reader, give them a brief summary of your current situation, and then ask your question. It will save you time and money and you will get a much clearer and concise reading from your advisor, thus, more quickly cutting to the chase of what you may need to do in order to achieve your goals.

Remember, there are 78 cards in the tarot deck, and the spread most frequently used by me and many other advisors involves ten cards.  Each card influences the adjacent cards and their meanings and each card also has a different meaning based on which area of your life your focus is on.  A Tarot Card will be interpreted one way for career, another way for love and another way entirely for “general” purposes.

Each card is also affected in interpretation by its position in any given spread.  It can represent a person, an energy, an outcome, an action, a thought or a feeling.

When you call on the phone, especially for a “first time” and ask for a general or cold read, from a Tarot Professional, the answers that you get will be just as vague and general as your questions.

I once had a woman call me and ask me, “What will my career be?“.  I explained to her that I don’t do “General Reads“, yet she would not “offer any information” as she wanted to test me.  Well, the cards do not show “a butcher, a baker or candlestick maker”, but I threw a spread anyway and I got cards that lended themselves to an interpretation of a political or law career, and guess what?  She was pursuing a career as an attorney, so the cards do work, but you have to start from somewhere, the lower your starting point (vague questioning), the longer it takes a Professional Tarot Reader to discern your answers. General Tarot Readings are just NOT PRACTICAL.Have a specific question ready prior to contacting a Tarot Reader if you want to get the best service possible and gain true clarity into your situation.  It will build a much better platform to work together on with the Reader you choose.